So, this is one of those nights where I was sitting down to finish off a post I will now be publishing later. Because I can't finish it. Because I have had a really hard night with Peanut. He's just crying and crying and then screaming and then crying some more. All because he is so overtired, but he just won't sleep. And we are so overtired too. I just don't know what to do anymore, and it's at times like this when I feel like the worst parent in the world. Nothing I can do seems to be working. And it's all well and good to have people give you all this wonderful advice, and for them to think you are probably doing something wrong, and if you just did this it would be fine, or this worked for me, or blah blah blah blah...but nothing actually works. If it was as simple as just following someone's advice, we would have done it like 18 times already. I know that this is just one night, and that it will pass, but right now in this moment, it feels so hopeless, and I feel like I am ruining my baby. If I let him cry, my heart breaks. If I try and comfort him, he screams more. And Hubby doesn't know what to do either.
This is one of those times when being a parent is hard. Like, really hard. And I am out of strategies, and out of answers.
And I wasn't going to write about this, but I wanted to be real. This is what parenting is really like sometimes. There are nights when you feel like a complete and utter failure.
Hang in there momma. It does get better! Just when you least expect it he will calm down and melt your heart with his sleepy smiles. :) Hope you get some sleep soon!
Poor you! It's so hard how it feels like, just as you are starting to figure them out, something like this happens and you are totally clueless yet again. I don't think there's any kind of rule that blogging has to be all about rainbows and sunshine, either -- this is your real life, so being honest is important. I won't bother giving you any advice, because you have heard it all already. Here's hoping for some happy moments with your little one today to make up for a rough night!
It is so hard when the baby doesn't sleep. Both my kids went through it and the only thing that got me throught it was knowing that one day they'll sleep. Hang in there, it does get easier.
Every parent goes through something like this so when this passes I hope you can at least take comfort in the fact that this is normal and the crying WILL eventually stop. Just keep troubleshooting and trust your own instinct. You know your baby better than anyone else. One thing I have figured out is that as long as you are continuing to try to make things better, you are always succeeding at being a good parent.
i totally understand. this past weekend my son was sick and it was constant whining and crying and there was nothing to do to stop it. like someone mentioned above every parent deals with this at some time and yeah it sucks, but it is normal and it isn't because you are a bad parent or you are doing something wrong. hope tonight is better!
I am so sorry! I remember nights like those where you just feel so helpless. You are tired and overwhelmed but worried about your little one and don't know what to do. I always felt like the worst parent ever. Just remember we all go through it and it will get better, eventually. Hang in there. :)
those are the days I strap em into the car and head to the drivethru - with any luck they pass out in the car and you can have a moment to enjoy a coffee or even a short nap with your baby. I spent many days sitting out in front of my house in the car! I hope he passes through this time quickly and you can all get some rest!
I hope it passes for you soon. Our youngest just had a schedule change about a week and a half ago. Now she wakes up MINIMUM 2 times a night. It will get better.
Those nights SUCK! I had my first night like that when my husband went away for training when our oldest was a couple months old. My husband usually put the baby to bed while I cooked dinner. Our son didn't like that I was doing bed time. He usually went to bed about 6:30pm. I called my dad with both of us crying at 9pm. I don't remember how, but I know he eventually fell asleep, but that first night was so rough!
You're going to be fine! Breathe in, breathe out. Take a break and get back in the ring! Every parent has these problems and you'll get through it. I'll keep you in my prayers. :)
Thank you so much for writing about this! I have nights like this with my 4.5 month old and I think "what am I doing wrong? Why doesn't this happen with our friends that are parents". It is nice to know I'm not alone with the challenges that being a new parent brings and that other people feel like being a new parent isn't all roses and sunshine all the time. There are many, many good times, but there are also some bumps and it is refreshing to see a blogger be so 'real' about it.
I'm Amy, and I'm a Mommy with nary a clue as to how to do this whole "parenting" thing. As a former traveler, I view this as another journey, although this time without a map, a plan or a clue! We call Canada home.
Hang in there momma. It does get better! Just when you least expect it he will calm down and melt your heart with his sleepy smiles. :) Hope you get some sleep soon!
ReplyDeleteStay strong and positive! :) It does get easier!
ReplyDeletePoor you! It's so hard how it feels like, just as you are starting to figure them out, something like this happens and you are totally clueless yet again. I don't think there's any kind of rule that blogging has to be all about rainbows and sunshine, either -- this is your real life, so being honest is important. I won't bother giving you any advice, because you have heard it all already. Here's hoping for some happy moments with your little one today to make up for a rough night!
ReplyDeleteIt is so hard when the baby doesn't sleep. Both my kids went through it and the only thing that got me throught it was knowing that one day they'll sleep. Hang in there, it does get easier.
ReplyDeleteSometimes there aren't any answers. Just tears. But the tears end to make way for smiles. And naps. There's always the hope of a nap.
ReplyDeleteEvery parent goes through something like this so when this passes I hope you can at least take comfort in the fact that this is normal and the crying WILL eventually stop. Just keep troubleshooting and trust your own instinct. You know your baby better than anyone else. One thing I have figured out is that as long as you are continuing to try to make things better, you are always succeeding at being a good parent.
ReplyDeletei totally understand. this past weekend my son was sick and it was constant whining and crying and there was nothing to do to stop it. like someone mentioned above every parent deals with this at some time and yeah it sucks, but it is normal and it isn't because you are a bad parent or you are doing something wrong. hope tonight is better!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry! I remember nights like those where you just feel so helpless. You are tired and overwhelmed but worried about your little one and don't know what to do. I always felt like the worst parent ever. Just remember we all go through it and it will get better, eventually. Hang in there. :)
ReplyDeletethose are the days I strap em into the car and head to the drivethru - with any luck they pass out in the car and you can have a moment to enjoy a coffee or even a short nap with your baby. I spent many days sitting out in front of my house in the car! I hope he passes through this time quickly and you can all get some rest!
ReplyDeleteI hope it passes for you soon. Our youngest just had a schedule change about a week and a half ago. Now she wakes up MINIMUM 2 times a night. It will get better.
ReplyDeleteThose nights SUCK! I had my first night like that when my husband went away for training when our oldest was a couple months old. My husband usually put the baby to bed while I cooked dinner. Our son didn't like that I was doing bed time. He usually went to bed about 6:30pm. I called my dad with both of us crying at 9pm. I don't remember how, but I know he eventually fell asleep, but that first night was so rough!
ReplyDeleteYou're going to be fine! Breathe in, breathe out. Take a break and get back in the ring! Every parent has these problems and you'll get through it. I'll keep you in my prayers. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for writing about this! I have nights like this with my 4.5 month old and I think "what am I doing wrong? Why doesn't this happen with our friends that are parents". It is nice to know I'm not alone with the challenges that being a new parent brings and that other people feel like being a new parent isn't all roses and sunshine all the time. There are many, many good times, but there are also some bumps and it is refreshing to see a blogger be so 'real' about it.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for the kind words. It means so much! You are definitely not alone. :)
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